A Woman in joy in her body literally feeds the world.
Nurturance oozes out of her.
The waters of Life are created within a Woman. She is the portal all human beings have come through.
A Woman connected to this truth could never disparage her body.
She knows that her body is to be tended as the garden of Life itself. She knows that her nourishment, nourishes the world.
There is a ‘toxic mimic’ of this via the aesthetic body obsession rampant within our culture.
So many women believe that if only they had a body that fit into the collective ideal they would be able to have more fun, experience more happiness and confidence, have better s*x, and have whatever-fill-in-the-blank thing they want.
There is this “when I lose the last 10 lbs then I’ll be happy and free” or “when I finally find the right combination of food/have the willpower to stay on this diet then I’ll heal” or “If only the wrinkles on my forehead and around my lips weren’t there. Then I would feel better”
Or the women who claim they need to get a boob job or tummy tuck or butt implants to feel “confident” and “happy” with who they are.
I’ll let you in on a little not so secret secret; you’re going to age, you’re going to get old, flabby and wrinkled. It’s happening. If you believe you need lip filler or a boob job to feel confident you are on the wrong track all together. Temporary external alterations will never be the solution to shifting an to internal state of being like confidence.
Even if having fuller lips for a few months makes you feel better about yourself; you’re not actually addressing the root cause of your self judgment or loathing.
You still have to live inside of you.
No matter where you go, there you are.
People try to act as if being obsessed with body aesthetics via working out super hard all the time, chronically under-eating, and being militant with their beauty regimes is tending to their body. And most people in our society applaud this kind of behavior.
Most people think a 35 year old woman with a ripped six pack, muscles rippling beneath her skin, waxed legs and make up applied is the epitome of health and must take such good care of herself.
Being hyper image obsessed is the same thing as the plastic surgery. It’s a totally disembodied way of manipulating the body for the purpose of external aesthetics and ideals that may make people feel confident in the short term, but what if they fall off their routines because they have a baby? Are they confident then? If someone gains 5 lbs and it sets them into a tailspin is that actually being confident (or reasonable for that matter)?
Does this person give themselves a lot of love and compassion and understanding? Or do they immediately jump into punishment and restriction?
Grown ass Women are not meant to have six packs, we have uteruses! To be fertile we need a certain level of fat for our body to know it’s safe to reproduce. Fertility = biological health.
We are not meant to be machines; pumping our muscles to fatigue day after day or micromanaging every single bite we take. That’s not tending to ourselves that is mental illness and obsession.
Truly tending to ourselves means listening day by day moment to moment to our internal desires, sensations, and hunger.
It means caring for the body through its inconvenient needs, changes, aging, and illnesses. It means caring deeply about what we put in it and how we treat our bodies. It means being reverent for exactly where we’re at in our lives.
A woman who tends to her own body with nourishment, permission, touch, pleasure, enjoyment, and compassion is a woman who has the capacity to be generous with the lifeforce she has cultivated.
It is a woman who doesn’t give from an empty cup because she knows there is alway a cost incurred when you take out a debt.
The more you enjoy your body, truly and fully, the more your partner will enjoy your body. That’s what will allow you to have better sex, not loosing weight.
The size of your body has zero to do with how much pleasure you can experience.
The more you feed yourself from a place of reverence for food and the body itself, the more energy and juice you will have. That is how you will experience healing.
The more you connect with your internal world, claim your innate worthiness, the more you will allow yourself to be as you are and the less you will be willing to abandon yourself for others’ comfort. And this is where true confidence and self assuredness come from.
If you are ready to take more enjoyment from your body as it is, this is your call to SAVOR, the retreat I’m holding at Sage Lodge in Pray, MT March 19-22.
At this retreat will be blueprinting ourselves with the most nourished versions of ourselves with a big dose of expanded having-ness and worthiness for our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual fullness.
Send me a message if at least a part of you is ready for that. Other parts might be nervous or scared by this idea, but the first step is to say yes to the deeper thing in you. You can choose to be ready to have what you believe you are worthy of expand.